Co-quarantined with an abuser?

Updated: Mar 24, 2020

Inspired by Christine Pelosi's Tweet.

It reads:

Co-quarantined with an abuser? worried about having to self-isolate from #coronavirus in a dangerous home situation?

Please reach out — contact @ndvh National Domestic Violence Hotline:

CALL 1−800−799−7233 or

TTY 1−800−787−3224 or


A situation like this can be especially horrific as victims are isolated from their support network and forced to live with their abuser. For an adult, social distancing means their work is done remotely and an abuser will take advantage of this situation to invoke more fear and control. The same thing can happen to a child as their school and school activities are closed. 

Here are some signs that an abuser is specifically using the Covid-19 to further the situation

*note this isn’t a list of signs of abuse, but signs of abuse by using the virus*

  • withholding sanitary items

  • sharing misinformation about the pandemic to control or frighten survivors

  • prevent survivors from seeking medical attention if they need it.

  • Using the virus as a way to prevent their children from seeing the other partner.

  • Using Covid-19 to prevent the victim from seeing family

  • Purposely trying to infect the victim with the virus

In addition to calling/reaching out for help, here are more things victims can do to protect yourself:

  • Create a safety plan:

  • This includes contacting friends/family or hotels before hand to ask to stay with them

  • Practice mindfulness and healthfulness (wash your hands, use hand sanitizer)

  • Videochat a loved one if you have access to a phone/computer

I know abuse itself is an awful situation and with something like the corona, it’s especially awful. Please remember that you are strong and a survivor, and there are many people willing to help.

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